During life, a significant factor is the relationship with another. There are
many aspects to a relationship that will make it strong or long lasting. Looks
may seem to be important but in the long run they prove not to be. Looks can be
changed through surgery and can fade with age. There are four qualities that
should be found in a good strong relationship. These four factors will never
change no matter what kind of relationship one is in or what one looks like. The
four factors that make a good relationship are commitment, trust, caring, and
communication. In any relationship, if any of these four factors are missing
then the relationship will not last long. Commitment is an important factor in
building a strong and successful relationship. Commitment keeps a relationship
together through the good and the bad times. Whether a partner in a relationship
is suffering through hard times, the couple if committed will pull through. A
strong relationship that is committed will make it through the major and the
minor crisis of life. A minor crisis that could put a strain on a relationship
could be considered as something simple such as the breaking of a date or one
person having no money. A major crisis may be one partner going off to war or
having to leave town for several months on business. If the relationship is
committed then a couple will survive these crisis. Commitment is a step in
building a strong relationship. Marvin Hinton 2 The second part of a successful
relationship is trust. Trust is like the “I love you” of a relationship.
Trust means that when one partner wants to go out for a night on the town with
his or her friends that they will not cheat. When a couple is out together for a
night that the other partner will not be flirting with other people in the room.
A couple that trusts each other will give each other space to do their own
thing. Trust allows a relationship to grow because there is not the constant
worry of what the other party is doing. Trust is when there are selected
responsibilities that each partner may have and makes sure are fulfilled.
Responsibilities such as making sure the trash is taken out or the bills are
paid on time. Building trust in a relationship could even consist of making sure
that if there is a dinner date that both parties are on time. Even though
destroying trust can happen in an instant, building trust takes lots of time.
Building trust in a relationship takes time and effort while destroying it could
be as simple as cheating or not showing up when a date is scheduled. The third
part of a successful relationship is caring. There is no way to truly describe
what caring is but it is an intimate part of any relationship. Caring is a
feeling or emotion. Caring is a feeling or emotion that cannot be readily
described in words but still a feeling. Caring is missing your partner when they
are away or being sad when they are not feeling well. Caring in a relationship
is an emotion that can only be described using other emotions. When two people
care for each other in a relationship form a bond which is hard to break even
when common sense tells them that they need to. This bond is so strong that even
abusive couples will stay together. The couple thinks that they care for each
other enough that the abuse does not matter. Caring is the fabric of building a
strong relationship. The fourth and most important part of a relationship is
communication. Communications is the problem solver of a relationship and could
also be the destroyer of Marvin Hinton 3 a relationship. Communication is
important because the beginning of any relationship. Any relationship starts
with communication because that is how you meet the person. A relationship will
not get started if the communication is not there. Communication separates a
purely physical relationship with no meaning from a true strong relationship.
Communication in a relationship should be honest. Communication makes two people
one. When a couple knows each others likes and dislikes communication is strong.
Communication lets a couple talk about their problems and can help resolve many
of them. In a relationship with no communication a small problem can cause a
rift which will lead to a break up. This is why communication is an important
part of a relationship. In all relationships there are up and downs. There are
likes and dislikes in any relationship but there are four elements that keep
them together. A couple that has strong communication is more likely to stay
together then one that does not. A relationship with caring will be stronger
than a relationship without. A couple that trusts one another is a likely pair
to stay together. Finally a couple that has a strong commitment is more likely
to have a good relationship. When these four things are accomplished in a
relationship it is likely.